How Many Surrogacies Have You Completed with Surrogate Steps?
What made you want to become a surrogate?
At a young age, I was told by a doctor that it would be nearly impossible for me to have children, without any explanation why. I lived many years in fear that I would never have kids, but then I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant with my daughter. Finding out that the doctor was wrong was such an amazing feeling. But I know that not everyone gets that kind of silver lining. I expressed how lucky I felt to my mother who began sending me things about surrogacy to research. The more I researched, the more I fell in love. I applied for Surrogate Steps, and the rest was history. So far, I have given birth to one beautiful, healthy baby boy. And as I am writing this now, I am about to be on the way to implant TWO embryos for another family. Surrogacy has changed my life and the families I have worked with and I am very grateful to be able to do this.
Describe what being a surrogate has meant in your life.
Becoming a surrogate has given me a lot of meaning in my life. I have felt love and appreciation not only from the families, staff, and my own family but also complete strangers who overhear me mentioning it. My life is forever changed in the best of ways since becoming a surrogate.
What advice would you give to someone who is just started to consider becoming a surrogate?
The biggest advice that I give to everyone that I talk to about surrogacy is to have strength, have a strong support system and make sure that your mental health is a top priority.
What advice would you give to someone who is about to start their first surrogacy journey?
I would tell anyone who is about to start their journey that the journey is never going to be exactly what you would expect it to be. It will be so much better. To be able to create life that you can tell the parent(s) will take care of and love them to the fullest and know that you are a big reason in that is amazing. It’s a beautiful feeling and when you feel that, remember it.
Describe the type and frequency of communication you had with your intended parents during your surrogacy journey(s).
The communication with my first IP is amazing. We do not speak on a daily basis but we talk every once in a while. I will receive picture updates and randomly receive messages of the appreciation of carrying and giving birth to his child. I am able to send birthday and gifts and if he ever wants to meet me some day, he is welcome to!
Describe the moment you saw the intended parents hold their baby for the first time.
Whenever I got to see him walk over to the baby afterwards, it was a very overwhelming feeling of comfort, love and joy. To see the excitement and love on his face was indescribable.
Please describe your current relationship and what sort of contact you have with the parents and or child.
I speak with the parent of my first surrogacy every once in a while, perhaps every 2 or 3 months. I get pictures and updates occasionally, and I truly appreciate that more than anything!
Please describe your experience working with Surrogate Steps in a few sentences.
Working with Surrogate Steps has been such an amazing experience. I have grown friendships with each coordinator and even the CEO. The weight that they take off of your shoulders from the whole experience makes things so easy for the surrogate. I am so appreciative of every single person that has helped me at Surrogate Steps, and I am forever grateful for them and this experience.
Please describe each of your journey's in as much detail as possible.
The first journey was very trying at times. It started at the beginning of COVID when everything was shut down, so the world itself was not very easy to navigate through. Also, when I first started the journey, I was working with a couple. Unfortunately, one of the partners passed away before we really started. We continued and we had a successful cycle. Carrying was beautiful and I was full of pride and joy. Then to give birth and watch that person go from such a terrible experience to have such joy and happiness on their face was beautiful. My second and current journey so far has been very different. It has been a very trying experience. We have had two cancelled cycles and one failed cycle. And I am currently going to get ready for the next transfer. But even though it has been trying I am still going to do my best for this family to bring them a child to their family. That is what I wanted to do with this journey and I will continue doing my best until there is a happy and healthy baby for the family. Surrogacy is beautiful and I am so honored and grateful that my body is able to do this and that I have had so many people in my life that are supporting, uplifting, loving and helpful for all of this.