You’ll have an experienced, knowledgeable, and compassionate coach every step of the way.
Peace of Mind
Sleep easy knowing you’re working with a licensed surrogacy agency directed by a practicing reproductive attorney with an excellent reputation amongst parents, surrogates, and fertility clinics alike.
Oh Baby!
Surrogate Steps has an amazing success rate, with 99.5% of our parents bringing home a happy baby.
A process where one person (the surrogate/gestational carrier), who did not provide the egg used in the creation of the embryo, carries a fetus through pregnancy for another person or couple.
We do this.
Traditional Surrogacy
In traditional surrogacy, the surrogate uses her own eggs and is thus genetically related to the child.
We do NOT do this.
The Choice is Yours
We start by working with you to define some preferences for your carrier and then get hard to work finding you the perfect surrogate. Of course, you’ll have the opportunity to meet any potential surrogate before deciding if they’re indeed the perfect match.
A Priceless Investment
Surrogacy is a significant financial investment, and we want to be upfront about that. Our agency fee is $25,000; most spend between $80,000-130,000 after factoring in surrogacy compensation and other expenses. In the end, it’ll be worth every penny and more!
Always Yours
As an attorney-directed agency, we know the laws around surrogacy and parentage. We ensure your surrogate resides and gives birth in the necessary states, that all legal hoops are jumped through, and that all paperwork is complete to ensure your baby is always yours and can be taken home directly from the hospital – every time.
Thank you for my two amazing miracles and for helping me achieve my dream to be a dad! Your dedicated team made all the difference, and I will forever be grateful to you!
Yifat listened to our concerns, and her and her team worked diligently to find us a match. Although it took some time, our ultimate match was perfect for our family and we are forever grateful for our carrier and the support Yifat and the team provided at all points along our journey. We highly recommend the Surrogate Steps family.
Yifat listened to our concerns, and her and her team worked diligently to find us a match. Although it took some time, our ultimate match was perfect for our family and we are forever grateful for our carrier and the support Yifat and the team provided at all points along our journey. We highly recommend the Surrogate Steps family.
Working with Surrogate Steps was straightforward, easy, and professional. They facilitated key elements of the process, and perhaps most importantly, connected us to an amazing GC with whom we remain good friends.
Thank you so much! We are overjoyed at Dominic’s arrival and feel incredibly blessed to have been paired with Candace. That would not be possible without Surrogate Steps and could never begin to put our gratitude into words. I’ve attached a picture of our little guy!
Thank you so much! We are overjoyed at Dominic’s arrival and feel incredibly blessed to have been paired with Candace. That would not be possible without Surrogate Steps and could never begin to put our gratitude into words. I’ve attached a picture of our little guy!
Thank you all for helping me make my dreams come true! I’m truly blessed! I rave about you guys all the time. You made a very difficult process seem easy!
The cost of surrogacy varies widely and depends largely on how experienced the surrogate you choose to work with is, the distance your surrogate lives from your fertility clinic, and more. Most surrogacy journeys cost between $90,000-$130,000, with a median of around $120,000.
Our Journey Protection Guarantee Programs offer our intended parents confidence and peace of mind for their surrogacy journey – no matter what happens. Each of our program packages provides an inclusive package with a full refund of agency fees if you do not bring home a baby.
To make your surrogacy journey more affordable, we are pleased to offer financing options through CapexMD, a lender specializing in fertility financing. Our partnership with CapexMD allows us to provide intended parents with customized loan programs at highly competitive rates.
Here are the benefits of financing with CapexMD:
Easy and secure online application
Personalized attention and concierge service
Highly competitive interest rates
Quick and easy approvals
Family members can also apply
Loans ranging from $3,000 to $50,000
Terms from 6 to 60 months
Highest levels of confidentiality
No membership fees, annual fees, or prepayment penalties
Once approved, CapexMD financial counselors will collaborate closely with Surrogate Steps to ensure your funds are secured on time, preventing any delays in your treatment. Together with CapexMD, we can ensure that financial concerns do not hinder your dream of having a baby. Apply online and receive your pre-approval within 24 hours.
The very first step is a simple one but an important one for us. During the consultation, we’ll learn about the hopes and desires for your journey as well as what makes an ideal surrogate for you.
Step 2
Sign Agency Agreement
After deciding you’d like to work with us, you’ll need to sign our agency agreement and pay the initial agence fee deposit. Once these basics are in place, we will work on finding the best surrogate for you.
Step 3
Pre-Matching (surrogate screening)
A lot of work is done behind the scenes to find the perfect surrogate for your growing family. We pre-screen all potential surrogates, ensuring they have met the mandatory requirements set by our agency, completed an interview, and obtained medical clearance from their OBGYN. We also review all surrogates’ medical records and insurance policies before qualifying them as pre-screened.
Once a surrogate is pre-screened, we look to see if they match your requirements and preferences. If we think there is a potential match, we begin working on the next step.
Step 4
The Match
The match begins by sharing the surrogate’s profile with you and vice versa. If both parties agree there is potential and would like to continue, the surrogate’s medical records are sent to your fertility clinic for review. Because we pre-screen our surrogates and review their medical records ourselves, it is exceedingly rare that a surrogate is denied by your clinic.
Once we receive initial approval from your clinic to proceed, we schedule a match meeting.
The match meeting is facilitated by one of our Journey Coordinators with the intention of making introductions, ensuring that everyone has the same values, and building the foundation for a potentially life-changing relationship. After the match meeting, each party is independently asked if they would like to proceed with the match.
These meetings, depending on the location of the intended parents in relation to the surrogate, are sometimes done in person, by video conference, or by phone conference. More often than not, they are done by a video conference call.
Step 5
Clinic Medical Screening
After confirming the match, the surrogate and her intimate partner will undergo medical testing at your fertility clinic so that the clinic can perform one final evaluation and confirm that the surrogate is indeed a good candidate to act as your gestational surrogate. This screening includes a uterine evaluation and blood tests.
Step 6
Final Agency Screening
After passing the medical examination, the surrogate will undergo a three-pronged psycho-social evaluation which will act as the final step of the surrogate’s evaluation and confirm that every aspect of their life is suitable to take on your pregnancy.
Psychological Evaluation: The evaluation is conducted by a licensed social worker and ensures the surrogate has adequate emotional and physical support for the surrogacy journey. Sometimes, this is done at the fertility clinic during the medical exam, and sometimes it is coordinated by our agency after the fact.
Home Study: The surrogate will undergo a home study evaluation coordinated by our agency and conducted by a licensed social worker. This ensures that the surrogate’s residence is a safe environment for your baby and to maintain a healthy pregnancy.
Criminal Background Check: The surrogate, her partner, and any adult living in their household will sign a consent form which will allow us to obtain your criminal background and discover any yet-to-be-uncovered red flags.
Again, because of our surrogates are rigorously pre-screened, it is rare that something comes up at this stage that prevents the surrogacy from going through.
Step 7
Legal Contracts & Escrow
All surrogacy arrangements require legal planning. One of the greatest benefits of our agency is that our director is an attorney specializing in reproductive law. Prior to providing you with a surrogate profile, we will conduct a legal evaluation to ensure that the surrogate resides in a state with favorable laws that accommodate your family’s needs.
When the time comes for your contracts, our director will draft your gestational carrier agreement and assist you with obtaining an attorney to represent you and a separate independent attorney to represent the surrogate for the review of the gestational carrier agreement.
Before the initial embryo transfer, we will assist you in establishing an escrow account for the benefit of the surrogate, which will be funded to compensate the surrogate’s base fees and estimated surrogacy journey expenses.
Step 8
Establishing Pregnancy
The surrogate will begin taking their embryo transfer medications, have monitoring appointments, and go for the embryo transfer.
The surrogate may need to travel for the embryo transfer with a companion if the clinic is not in close proximity to the surrogate’s residence (which is quite common). If such travel is required, then the surrogate will need to rest in a hotel approximately 24-48 hours after the embryo transfer before traveling back home. We will coordinate all travel arrangements, including flights and car rentals, and we will reimburse the surrogate per the surrogate’s compensation package from your funds in the escrow account.
Approximately 10 days after the embryo transfer, the surrogate will undergo blood tests to confirm a pregnancy. After pregnancy is confirmed and approximately four weeks after the embryo transfer, it will be time for the baby’s first ultrasound and confirmation of the baby’s heartbeat.
Step 9
The Pregnancy & Recognizing the Intended Parents as the Legal Parents
During your gestational surrogate’s pregnancy, you will be in regular contact with the surrogate. Most of our parents facetime their surrogates one to a few times per week.
We will ensure the surrogate is properly reimbursed and compensated by the Escrow per the Compensation Package and the Gestational Carrier Agreement (GCA). In order to receive payment for reimbursements that are not in fixed amounts (examples include pharmacy bills, medical bills, etc), the surrogate will need to inform Surrogate Steps and the Escrow; your approval will be needed to make the payment.
Once the surrogate enters the second trimester of pregnancy, you will work with your attorney to commence and ensure your paternity rights. This will ensure that you are recognized as legal parents of your child and that you are able to make all medical and legal decisions on behalf of your child commencing at birth.
Around the 17-18th week of pregnancy, we will work to ensure that you, the surrogate, and the hospital have certified copies of the parentage order.
Around the 26-30th week of pregnancy, we will begin to discuss the birth plan with the hospital social worker to secure a plan for the hospital stay. This includes ensuring your access to the delivery room (if applicable), the baby (post-delivery), and your own room in the hospital (if possible).
Around the 26-34 weeks of pregnancy, we will work with you and confirm travel plans are in place for your child’s birth.
Step 10
The Birth of Your Child
The most amazing moment that you have been waiting for is finally here, the arrival of your baby!
We work together with the hospital at which your baby will be delivered to provide you with a separate room to spend time with your baby. Once the baby is ready to be discharged from the hospital, you will take your baby to his or her new home!
Surrogate, gestational surrogate, carrier, and gestational carrier all terms mean the same thing, and we use them interchangeably. Surrogates can be married or single, have varying education levels, come from various ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds, and more. That said, some basic things unite all our surrogates.
Proven Birth Record
Surrogates must have a minimum of one child born without pregnancy or delivery complications. Experienced surrogates get compensated an additional 5k per successful surrogacy for further demonstrating their reliability.
Good Health
Surrogates must be in good health. They must pass a medical records review by our medical team, receive clearance for pregnancy from their OBGYN, and pass a medical record review and physical exam by your fertility clinic.
Excellent Communicators
Surrogates must demonstrate timely and effective communication throughout the screening process so that we know they are reliable and will communicate empathetically and professionally with you throughout the journey.
Mature
Surrogates must be between the ages of 23 and 41 and demonstrate a high level of maturity.
Non Drug, Alcohol, or Tobacco Use
Surrogates may not have any history of drug or alcohol abuse and must be smoke-free for a minimum of 6 months before joining our program.
Strong & Supportive Home Life
Surrogates must have the support of their family and live in a stable, loving home. They must be able to pass a psychological evaluation, a home study, and a background check with flying colors.
No Criminal Record
Surrogates may not have any criminal history record.
Surrogate Friendly State
A basic, but crucially important criterion; surrogates must reside in a surrogate-friendly state to ensure your parental rights are never jeopardized.
Valid State ID or Drivers License
Another basic but still an important measure in ensuring your parental rights. All gestational carriers must have an active driver’s license or government ID that proves their legal status within the United States.
Meet Some Real Surrogate Step Gestational Carriers
I appreciate all the Surrogate Steps team has done to help me through this journey. I have never once felt alone or out of place.
SurrogateLourdes
Working with Surrogate Steps has been such an amazing experience; they make everything so easy. I am so appreciative of every single person that has helped me at Surrogate Steps, and I am forever grateful for them and this experience.
Working with Surrogate Steps has been such an amazing experience; they make everything so easy. I am so appreciative of every single person that has helped me at Surrogate Steps, and I am forever grateful for them and this experience.
Surrogate Steps made it such an easy process from start to finish. They made sure everything was set up from traveling, hotels, embryo transfer, legal, and escrow accounts to delivery. Most of all they treated me like family even after my journey was over, it was like being part of a forever sisterhood.
Surrogate Steps made it such an easy process from start to finish. They made sure everything was set up from traveling, hotels, embryo transfer, legal, and escrow accounts to delivery. Most of all they treated me like family even after my journey was over, it was like being part of a forever sisterhood.
You’re amazing too, and we really appreciate how emotional this is. We know how difficult it is to give up control and are here to make this a beautiful process for you despite all the challenges you have faced in getting here.
Four Time SurrogateRachel SalazarSurrogate Journey Coordinator
Please don’t hurry and match with just anybody. Please make sure you truly match with someone that has the same likes and wishes. Never create a shortcut. Especially in legal.
Three Time SurrogateMichelle ValeroIntended Parent Coordinator
Your surrogate wants to connect with you! Be honest and open, and know that it is okay to be emotional. We are in this together as a team. Just as a surrogate has a vision for their journey, you must have one too. What do you want that to look like? Find a surrogate that matches that, and enjoy the journey!
Two Time SurrogateKaty BrownSurrogate Intake Coordinator
This can be a difficult journey, but you are so so so close; never give up hope!
Two Time SurrogateKadie HuffmanSurrogate Intake and Journey Coordinator
Please don’t hurry and match with just anybody. Please make sure you truly match with someone that has the same likes and wishes. Never create a shortcut. Especially in legal.
Three Time SurrogateMichelle ValeroIntended Parent Coordinator
Your surrogate wants to connect with you! Be honest and open, and know that it is okay to be emotional. We are in this together as a team. Just as a surrogate has a vision for their journey, you must have one too. What do you want that to look like? Find a surrogate that matches that, and enjoy the journey!
Two Time SurrogateKaty BrownSurrogate Intake Coordinator
This can be a difficult journey, but you are so so so close; never give up hope!
Two Time SurrogateKadie HuffmanSurrogate Intake and Journey Coordinator
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Frequently Asked Questions
Do I get to choose my surrogate?
Absolutely. Generally, we present you with surrogates one at a time. If you don’t like them, we will show you another profile. If you like them, we will schedule a time for a match meeting for you to meet your surrogate. Both you and the surrogate will have an independent, but final say as to whether you would like to work together.
How are surrogate applicants screened?
Surrogates are screened based on a number of social, behavioral, socioeconomic, health, medical, and pregnancy-related factors in a multi-stage interview-like process. In addition, to form-based and phone/video-based interviews, surrogates have their medical records combed through by a trained nurse/medical professional, must obtain clearance from the OB for pregnancy/surrogacy, pass a medical exam by your fertility clinic, and undergo a background check as well as an in-person home study by a private investigator, a social worker, or a Surrogate Steps professional. Over 100 small details that could interfere with the physical aspect of pregnancy or the relationship between the surrogate and the intended parent or agency will automatically disqualify someone from becoming a surrogate.
How does the matching process work?
Once we have fully screened and accepted a surrogate into our program, our matching team determines potential matching options based on a variety of factors. Some of the factors we look at include the state in which the surrogate and intended parents reside, whether the surrogate has insurance, along with various matching preferences defined by both intended parents and carriers.
Once a potential match is found, redacted profiles (profiles with no identifying information) of the intended parents and surrogates will be exchanged. Should both parties express an interest in working together, we organize a video call for parties to meet.
After the match meeting and the parties give the final approval, the surrogate goes through an intensive medical screening by the fertility clinic, a background check, and an in-person home study by private investigator, a social worker, or by a Surrogate Steps professional. Once the surrogate passes these checks, we will start preparing for the embryo transfer.
In the rare occurrence that the surrogate does not pass the fertility clinic medical screening (this is quite rare as we have already performed an intensive medical records screening and obtained clearance from the surrogate’s OB) or home study, we will present a new match free of charge.
How much does surrogacy cost?
The cost of surrogacy varies tremendously from journey to journey but is always a significant investment. You can expect your journey to cost around $75,000 for surrogacy-specific expenses, including surrogate compensation/expenses/reimbursements, agency fees, legal fees, and other necessary surrogacy-specific expenses, and between $80,000 and $120,000, including the cost of fertility treatment.
What is the typical profile of your surrogates?
It would be impossible to define what a “normal” or “typical” surrogate looks like. Surrogates can be single, in a committed relationship, or married. They can speak English, Spanish, or a number of other languages. They can live almost anywhere in the United States and be of any ethnic or religious background. They can have varying levels of education and so much more.
But, one thing unites all carriers at Surrogate Steps. Each and every one of our surrogates is extraordinarily compassionate and giving. Without question, this is the one trait we look for when finding carriers to join our program.
Other than that, all surrogates must:
Be between the age of 23-41
Be in good health and receive medical clearance from their OB and your fertility clinic for pregnancy.
Be mature, responsible, and responsive.
Have at least one previous successful pregnancy free of pregnancy or birth complications
Be a non-active smoker and have no history of alcohol or substance abuse.
Not be on section 8 housing
Have a strong support system
Reside in the United States (but not allowed to reside in the states of Louisiana, Nebraska, or Michigan).
Where will my surrogate deliver my child?
All surrogates will deliver at a hospital near their home. Most of our surrogates have existing relationships with an OBGYN and will deliver at the same hospital where they gave birth to their own children or previous surrogacies.
Intended parents, understandably so, often wish to be in the labor and delivery room for the birth. This may be possible but depends on hospital policy as well as the surrogate’s comfort.
Following the birth of your child, the baby will join you in a room assigned to you or remain in the nursery. Most hospital policies require that your child remains in the hospital until the surrogate has been discharged.
Which Fertility clinics do you work with?
We work with all fertility clinics in the United States. Most of the time, intended parents choose to continue their surrogacy journey with a fertility clinic they have already worked with. That said, we have connections with many of the top fertility clinics and are happy to provide referrals for a recommended clinic.
Why should I choose Surrogate Steps?
Growing your family through surrogacy is an exciting but often overwhelming experience. Often those pursuing surrogacy have already been through so much heartache in trying to grow their family. Surrogacy can present financial, emotional, and logistical challenges. With so much on the line, it’s important to work with a team as experienced, compassionate, and hands-on as Surrogate Steps.
Top fertility clinics refer intended parents to Surrogate Steps for a number of reasons.
We are a Licensed Surrogacy Agency: surrogacy agencies are highly unregulated and are not required to be licensed. That means most lack the checks and balances to ensure that surrogates and intended parents are fully informed and that their rights are protected. Surrogate Steps is a fully licensed agency which means we go through additional scrutiny and run our practice to a level above and beyond the standard.
Attorney Directed: Surrogate Steps is directed by one of the leading legal experts in reproductive and surrogacy law, Yifat Shaltiel. As an attorney-directed agency, our ethical standards are set high so you know you’ll always be treated fairly and honestly.
Experience: We’ve been in business since 2013, have helped hundreds of individuals and couples grow their families through surrogacy, and collectively have over 60 years of combined surrogacy experience.
We have top-quality surrogates: our surrogates are screened using the American Society of Reproductive Medicine’s surrogacy standards by trained medical professionals before they are ever sent to your clinics for approval.
Compassionate and highly experienced surrogate and parent coordinators: each and every one of our staff members is a repeat surrogate, meaning they’ve successfully completed multiple surrogacy journeys. That means you’ll have a compassionate, empathetic, and highly experienced guide you can lean on every step of the way.
Fair Pricing: We are upfront and honest about our pricing, so you always know what you’re getting into. Our agency fee is $25,000, and our surrogacy compensation starts at $40,000. After all additional bonuses and pregnancy-related expenses are paid, you can expect to pay anywhere from $80,000-120,000. That’s quite a wide range, so we encourage you to explore the cost of surrogacy here and ask us any questions you may have.
Will I be able to take the baby home directly from the hospital?
Yes, everything will be worked out with the hospital and other required entities prior to the birth of your child so that you will be able to take your baby home directly from the hospital.
Will I be allowed in the delivery room during the birth?
Understandably, intended parents often wish to be in the labor and delivery room for the birth. This may be possible but depends on hospital policy as well as the surrogate’s comfort.
Following the birth of your child, the baby will join you in a room assigned to you or remain in the nursery. The parent is the first person to hold the child, other than medical professionals. Most hospital policies require that your child remains in the hospital until the surrogate has been discharged.
Will I have contact with my surrogate?
Absolutely, you will be in direct contact with your surrogate throughout the journey and encouraged to establish a strong connection with your surrogate. Establishing a bond with your surrogate is one of the most important and special aspects of you becoming a parent through surrogacy. Many intended parents are in daily contact with their surrogates, whereas others find the time to connect about once a week.
How long does the entire surrogacy process take?
Generally, it takes approximately 15-18 months from the time that you apply with our agency to the time you hold your baby in your arms.
Surrogacy is a beautiful but often intimidating process. No matter where you are in exploring the possibility of growing your family or becoming a surrogate, we are here to help!
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Do you work with same sex and LGBTQ+ Couples?
Absolutely! Surrogate Steps consultants are proud to work with same-sex couple and others in the LGBTQ+ community.
We aim to match you with a compassionate and caring surrogate who will understand your personalized individual needs and develop a trusting relationship with you.
Surrogate Steps consultants are aware of the particular attention to legal detail that is required when matching same-sex couples with a Surrogate. Surrogate Steps consultants work together with legal teams nationally and internationally to ensure that our Surrogate Mothers reside in States that are friendly to same-sex couples. This includes working with States that will allow both names of same-sex Intended Parents to be placed on their child’s birth certificate.
How are surrogate applicants screened?
Surrogates are screened based on a number of social, behavioral, socioeconomic, health, medical, and pregnancy-related factors in a multi-stage interview-like process. In addition, to form-based and phone/video-based interviews, surrogates have their medical records combed through by a trained nurse/medical professional, must obtain clearance from the OB for pregnancy/surrogacy, pass a medical exam by your fertility clinic, and undergo a background check as well as an in-person home study by a private investigator, a social worker, or a Surrogate Steps professional. Over 100 small details that could interfere with the physical aspect of pregnancy or the relationship between the surrogate and the intended parent or agency will automatically disqualify someone from becoming a surrogate.
Why do I need an attorney?
Surrogacy laws are complex and vary greatly by state and county. It’s important to work with an attorney to ensure that you get to keep your child and that your journey runs as smoothly as possible.
What are the requirements to become a surrogate/gestational carrier?
Surrogates must:
Be between the age of 23-41
Be in good health and receive medical clearance from their OB and your fertility clinic for pregnancy.
Demonstrate a high level of maturity, responsibility, and responsiveness
Have at least one previous successful pregnancy free of pregnancy or birth complications
Be a non-active smoker or and have no history of alcohol or substance abuse
Not be on section 8 housing
Have a strong support system
Reside in the United States (but not allowed to reside in Louisiana, Nebraska, or Michigan).
Why do women choose to become surrogates/gestational carriers?
Many people assume others become gestational surrogates for money, but this is almost never the case. Sure, money may be the thing that initially sparks someone’s interest in becoming a surrogate and be a factor in why someone ultimately becomes a surrogate, but it is never the primary reason someone becomes a carrier. That’s because those who are in it for “quick and easy” money quickly realize that being a surrogate is by no means easy money and drop out from the surrogacy process.
In almost all cases, those who ultimately become gestational carriers do so because they are incredibly compassionate people and have an overwhelming drive to help those in need. For example, many surrogates share that being pregnant is very easy for them, and they love being pregnant, but that they do not want more children, and would love to use their gift of fertility to help others in need. Other surrogates share that they have personally known someone who struggled with fertility, and realized that surrogacy is the only way for some people to have children, and they want to help others have children, and to give the gift of life.
What legal processes happen before and after the birth to ensure I get to keep the baby?
The process to ensure you get to keep your baby starts with our team coordinating and matching you with a surrogate in a state where the necessary legal work to finalize your parental rights can be accomplished.
You will also need to have wills in place prior to the embryo transfer that ensures a guardian is in place to care for your children in the event of your death.
Once you are matched, we will draft the gestational carrier agreement for you, which will then be negotiated between you and your independent attorney and the surrogate and their independent attorney.
Once the surrogate commences the second trimester of pregnancy, you will work with your attorney to commence and ensure your paternity rights. This will ensure that you are recognized as legal parents of your child and that you are able to make all medical and legal decisions on behalf of your child commencing at birth.
Will there be contracts with my surrogate?
Yes, both you and the surrogate will be required to sign a gestational carrier agreement.
A gestational carrier agreement is a contract between the intended parents and a gestational carrier (and her partner/spouse). The contract details each party’s rights, obligations, intentions, and expectations in connection with their arrangement.
The contract addresses topics including the location of delivery, future contact between the parties, parental rights, custody issues, control over medical decisions during the pregnancy, intended parents’ presence during delivery, payment of medical bills, liability for medical complications, health and life insurance, and more. Financial considerations, including the carrier’s compensation and reimbursements, including lost wages, child care, legal fees, maternity clothes, and more, are also addressed in the gestational carrier agreement.
The gestational carrier agreement is drafted by Yifat Shaltiel, Esq. of Surrogate Steps, but the intended parents and the gestational carrier must be independently represented by an attorney specializing in surrogacy law throughout the negotiation process of this contract. This ensures that all parties have a complete understanding of their rights and responsibilities to the other parties.
Both attorneys are compensated by the intended parents.
Will I need an attorney?
Yes, even though we are an attorney-directed agency, it is important to obtain independent counsel for some aspects of your journey. This is important for ethical reasons and to ensure both our surrogates and intended parents are treated fairly, ethically, and legally.
Still, we will always have your back. Prior to providing you with a surrogate profile, we will conduct a legal evaluation to ensure that the surrogate resides in a state with favorable laws that accommodate your family’s needs.
When it is time to work on your gestational carrier agreement, the legal contract between you and your surrogate, our director will draft your gestational carrier agreement and assist you with obtaining an attorney to represent you and a separate independent attorney to represent the surrogate in the review of the gestational carrier agreement.
We have a strong working relationship with all attorneys we recommend and are confident in their understanding of surrogacy law. You are, of course, free to find an attorney yourself, but our expert team will require the attorney to be independent, be experienced in surrogacy law, and have no conflict of interest.
Will I be able to take the baby home directly from the hospital?
Yes, everything will be worked out with the hospital and other required entities prior to the birth of your child so that you will be able to take your baby home directly from the hospital.
Will I be allowed in the delivery room during the birth?
Understandably, intended parents often wish to be in the labor and delivery room for the birth. This may be possible but depends on hospital policy as well as the surrogate’s comfort.
Following the birth of your child, the baby will join you in a room assigned to you or remain in the nursery. The parent is the first person to hold the child, other than medical professionals. Most hospital policies require that your child remains in the hospital until the surrogate has been discharged.
Which Fertility clinics do you work with?
We work with all fertility clinics in the United States. Most of the time, intended parents choose to continue their surrogacy journey with a fertility clinic they have already worked with. That said, we have connections with many of the top fertility clinics and are happy to provide referrals for a recommended clinic.
Where will my surrogate deliver my child?
All surrogates will deliver at a hospital near their home. Most of our surrogates have existing relationships with an OBGYN and will deliver at the same hospital where they gave birth to their own children or previous surrogacies.
Intended parents, understandably so, often wish to be in the labor and delivery room for the birth. This may be possible but depends on hospital policy as well as the surrogate’s comfort.
Following the birth of your child, the baby will join you in a room assigned to you or remain in the nursery. Most hospital policies require that your child remains in the hospital until the surrogate has been discharged.
Absolutely! Surrogate Steps consultants are proud to work with same-sex couple and others in the LGBTQ+ community.
We aim to match you with a compassionate and caring surrogate who will understand your personalized individual needs and develop a trusting relationship with you.
Surrogate Steps consultants are aware of the particular attention to legal detail that is required when matching same-sex couples with a Surrogate. Surrogate Steps consultants work together with legal teams nationally and internationally to ensure that our Surrogate Mothers reside in States that are friendly to same-sex couples. This includes working with States that will allow both names of same-sex Intended Parents to be placed on their child’s birth certificate.
How are surrogate applicants screened?
Surrogates are screened based on a number of social, behavioral, socioeconomic, health, medical, and pregnancy-related factors in a multi-stage interview-like process. In addition, to form-based and phone/video-based interviews, surrogates have their medical records combed through by a trained nurse/medical professional, must obtain clearance from the OB for pregnancy/surrogacy, pass a medical exam by your fertility clinic, and undergo a background check as well as an in-person home study by a private investigator, a social worker, or a Surrogate Steps professional. Over 100 small details that could interfere with the physical aspect of pregnancy or the relationship between the surrogate and the intended parent or agency will automatically disqualify someone from becoming a surrogate.
Why do I need an attorney?
Surrogacy laws are complex and vary greatly by state and county. It’s important to work with an attorney to ensure that you get to keep your child and that your journey runs as smoothly as possible.
What are the requirements to become a surrogate/gestational carrier?
Surrogates must:
Be between the age of 23-41
Be in good health and receive medical clearance from their OB and your fertility clinic for pregnancy.
Demonstrate a high level of maturity, responsibility, and responsiveness
Have at least one previous successful pregnancy free of pregnancy or birth complications
Be a non-active smoker or and have no history of alcohol or substance abuse
Not be on section 8 housing
Have a strong support system
Reside in the United States (but not allowed to reside in Louisiana, Nebraska, or Michigan).
Why do women choose to become surrogates/gestational carriers?
Many people assume others become gestational surrogates for money, but this is almost never the case. Sure, money may be the thing that initially sparks someone’s interest in becoming a surrogate and be a factor in why someone ultimately becomes a surrogate, but it is never the primary reason someone becomes a carrier. That’s because those who are in it for “quick and easy” money quickly realize that being a surrogate is by no means easy money and drop out from the surrogacy process.
In almost all cases, those who ultimately become gestational carriers do so because they are incredibly compassionate people and have an overwhelming drive to help those in need. For example, many surrogates share that being pregnant is very easy for them, and they love being pregnant, but that they do not want more children, and would love to use their gift of fertility to help others in need. Other surrogates share that they have personally known someone who struggled with fertility, and realized that surrogacy is the only way for some people to have children, and they want to help others have children, and to give the gift of life.
What legal processes happen before and after the birth to ensure I get to keep the baby?
The process to ensure you get to keep your baby starts with our team coordinating and matching you with a surrogate in a state where the necessary legal work to finalize your parental rights can be accomplished.
You will also need to have wills in place prior to the embryo transfer that ensures a guardian is in place to care for your children in the event of your death.
Once you are matched, we will draft the gestational carrier agreement for you, which will then be negotiated between you and your independent attorney and the surrogate and their independent attorney.
Once the surrogate commences the second trimester of pregnancy, you will work with your attorney to commence and ensure your paternity rights. This will ensure that you are recognized as legal parents of your child and that you are able to make all medical and legal decisions on behalf of your child commencing at birth.
Will there be contracts with my surrogate?
Yes, both you and the surrogate will be required to sign a gestational carrier agreement.
A gestational carrier agreement is a contract between the intended parents and a gestational carrier (and her partner/spouse). The contract details each party’s rights, obligations, intentions, and expectations in connection with their arrangement.
The contract addresses topics including the location of delivery, future contact between the parties, parental rights, custody issues, control over medical decisions during the pregnancy, intended parents’ presence during delivery, payment of medical bills, liability for medical complications, health and life insurance, and more. Financial considerations, including the carrier’s compensation and reimbursements, including lost wages, child care, legal fees, maternity clothes, and more, are also addressed in the gestational carrier agreement.
The gestational carrier agreement is drafted by Yifat Shaltiel, Esq. of Surrogate Steps, but the intended parents and the gestational carrier must be independently represented by an attorney specializing in surrogacy law throughout the negotiation process of this contract. This ensures that all parties have a complete understanding of their rights and responsibilities to the other parties.
Both attorneys are compensated by the intended parents.
Will I need an attorney?
Yes, even though we are an attorney-directed agency, it is important to obtain independent counsel for some aspects of your journey. This is important for ethical reasons and to ensure both our surrogates and intended parents are treated fairly, ethically, and legally.
Still, we will always have your back. Prior to providing you with a surrogate profile, we will conduct a legal evaluation to ensure that the surrogate resides in a state with favorable laws that accommodate your family’s needs.
When it is time to work on your gestational carrier agreement, the legal contract between you and your surrogate, our director will draft your gestational carrier agreement and assist you with obtaining an attorney to represent you and a separate independent attorney to represent the surrogate in the review of the gestational carrier agreement.
We have a strong working relationship with all attorneys we recommend and are confident in their understanding of surrogacy law. You are, of course, free to find an attorney yourself, but our expert team will require the attorney to be independent, be experienced in surrogacy law, and have no conflict of interest.
Will I be able to take the baby home directly from the hospital?
Yes, everything will be worked out with the hospital and other required entities prior to the birth of your child so that you will be able to take your baby home directly from the hospital.
Will I be allowed in the delivery room during the birth?
Understandably, intended parents often wish to be in the labor and delivery room for the birth. This may be possible but depends on hospital policy as well as the surrogate’s comfort.
Following the birth of your child, the baby will join you in a room assigned to you or remain in the nursery. The parent is the first person to hold the child, other than medical professionals. Most hospital policies require that your child remains in the hospital until the surrogate has been discharged.
Which Fertility clinics do you work with?
We work with all fertility clinics in the United States. Most of the time, intended parents choose to continue their surrogacy journey with a fertility clinic they have already worked with. That said, we have connections with many of the top fertility clinics and are happy to provide referrals for a recommended clinic.
Where will my surrogate deliver my child?
All surrogates will deliver at a hospital near their home. Most of our surrogates have existing relationships with an OBGYN and will deliver at the same hospital where they gave birth to their own children or previous surrogacies.
Intended parents, understandably so, often wish to be in the labor and delivery room for the birth. This may be possible but depends on hospital policy as well as the surrogate’s comfort.
Following the birth of your child, the baby will join you in a room assigned to you or remain in the nursery. Most hospital policies require that your child remains in the hospital until the surrogate has been discharged.